What are you getting out of this? You can start over again.why not? If his issues are this deep seated, it may be best to cut ties. Then comes the casual "Oh never mind" disappearing act. Especially if you have shared many private things: things you believed were special between the two of you. The end result is a casual brush-off that is demoralizing, to say the least. Sure, it hurts to lose somebody, but it's much easier when you're not left hanging, not knowing the reasons why. It could save a lot of hurt for the others involved if there was open communication. I'll never understand why some people think that disappearing is the best course of action when you want out of a relationship. Why not just be honest? Why the Abandonment With No Explanation? It was just plain tasteless and degrading. Plus, it would have saved me from developing a poor opinion of him. I mean, why the heck couldn't he have just told me he wanted to start seeing somebody else? Sure, it would hurt, but it would have been so much easier. What do you want me to say? 'Baby baby, come back, I love you?' Cause I’m not!" That was cold and shocking, to say the least. His reaction was, "I didn't want there to be a catastrophe. He had answered some woman’s personal ad in the newspaper and had begun seeing her! Talk about a slap! May as well have rubbed crap in my face! I confronted him (or tried to). Then I found out the real slammer the following Monday. I tried to stay busy, but I had a bad feeling inside. I was very sad and lonesome that weekend. He made no plans with me for the coming weekend. He said he'd been "covered up" with a project. I called him and left a message, but he didn't return the call. Then poof! I didn't hear from him for a week. We spent a wonderful weekend together, and I thought we were getting closer. I remember when this happened to me years ago with someone I’d been steadily involved with for about six weeks. Unless, of course, there was a legitimate, true reason for the disappearing act, though I can’t think of many legitimate excuses. Otherwise, you’ll be left feeling empty and betrayed again. If they do, that's when one must be strong and not let the person back in again to prevent the pattern from repeating. Sometimes those who disconnect are never heard from again. In fact, it leaves you with a sense of complete rejection. Think of this: what kind of person comes into your life, takes you on a roller coaster ride, and then disappears? There’s something wrong with that picture.